Category Archives: Kids

It’S FrIDaY!

Just off the Robert W. Williams Interchange in beautiful Florence, SC.

It’s Friday morning. I’m back on the special project we are working on for another company.

I started this morning in general merchandise/grocery. I walked into a manager having a nervous breakdown; I checked in and went straight to work. Retail is hard, but…

It has been a long day. I’m back home now sitting here with Ms. Fibble.

Time to shower, eat, watch some TV, AND THEN…hit the road again.

Tonight is Friday. Tonight is the first home football game of the season.

I’m excited!

Is there anything more free than a Friday night high school football game? It’s just so American. The football team, rooting for your favorite, the food, the cheerleaders chanting on the sideline.

I’m not a sportsball guy at all.

I’m there for the band. And my two kids.

More later. Most definitely.

That’s it. That’s the post.

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Panem Et Circenses

We are watching The Hunger Games movies as a family because Sam has never watched them, he was too young when they first came out.

It’s an interesting story if you like dystopian type stuff.

It kind of reminds me a lot of something I can’t quite put my finger on.

But…

That’s it. That’s the post.

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Saturday Night

It’s Saturday night so that means homemade pizza and a movie with the kids.

Tonight’s selection is a classic…

The teenager started out with the movie being β€œcringe”. The eleven year old is more open to new/old things so he gives it a shot.

By the end they were both grinning ear to ear.

It was a good pick and I’m glad we got to share a part of our movie past with them the same way we share music and books.

And there is no way I can leave Babysittin’ Blues out of this post. It just isn’t done.

That’s it. That’s the post.

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Christmas Eve 2020

We spent the evening with mom and dad. Just like every year. We see them every day so no worries over Covid (since that’s the first thing to come to peoples minds). We see a lot of people every day.

We had dinner and exchanged gifts and then sat,without phones, and talked for a couple of hours. And that’s what we used to do. It’s just proper sitting there with no real distractions except the kids acting goofy.

It’s nice.


Our neighbor, let’s call her Ms. Betty (because that’s her name) lost her husband this year.

Mom and Dad always watched over them and on holidays when we have big meals we always took them a plate. And that tradition continues. The wife and I took the food down this time.

She’s alone now, of course, and the we stayed and chatted with her a bit before going back to mom and dads. But I can feel her loneliness.

It’s so very sad.


I wrote that last bit because it makes me appreciate what I have. The wife, kids, mom and dad. My work, the friends I have at work and the customers I see every week.

They are all a part of my life and it makes it full.

Appreciate what you have. And if you don’t have it, try to find it. Family is everything. No matter how bad it gets sometimes.

Good friends, your tribe, your gang! It doesn’t have to blood. Sometimes family isn’t.

Merry Christmas!

That’s it. That’s the post.

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Landsford Canal

We visited Landsford Canal State Park today. We haven’t been in years and as we didn’t get to visit Maggie Valley, NC this year and hike around there we at least got to hike in something familiar.

The trails here remind us of Alum Cave in Tennessee, in some parts. Same smells and sounds walking through the forest.

The Canal Trail is a little over three miles round trip and a really easy hike. Depending on if you climb on everything like my son, of course. He probably adds an easy mile to everywhere we go.

The Son

The Landsford Canal is a navigation channel that opened in 1823 with the purpose of bypassing rapids along the Catawba River to allow efficient freight transport and rapid travel between nearby communities and settlements along the rural frontiers of the era. It had five locks operating over a stretch of two miles with an elevation change overall of 32–34 feet. It was part of the inland navigation system from the ‘Up Country’ to Charleston, built systematically from 1819, and the navigations are today the centerpiece of Canal State Park. (From Wikipedia)

And that’s the daughter up there in the middle. Fifteen year olds, am I right?!

It’s fairly impressive, even in ruins, and there are so many photography opportunities. Just bring whatever camera you have and your eye (or both) and find your image.

The nearest town is Fort Lawn and I’m posting directions from there. But a quick internet search will give you directions from most anywhere.

She doesn’t like having her pic taken. BUT, there is a wife.

I won’t throw much more on this post as I think the experience should be saved for you.

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Hindsight is…

I had the opportunity for a full reset regarding employment. I was offered a chance at a job (literally) resetting stores. Going into retail locations overnight and remodeling their stores when it was time for a change. It was a significant pay raise as well, and remodels and resetting are something I’m good at and would enjoy. But, as life goes, there’s a problem.

It’s your KIDS, Seegars!

The problem is that I have a fifteen and a ten year old child at home and the job requires travel anywhere from two to fourteen weeks at a time and I cannot afford that much time away from my kids, not to mention my wife.

They would handle and deal with what came at them. But I don’t know that I could handle and deal with what came at them. You see, it’s important that we as parents are here. You can always find a way to make money. You can always get another job.

But you cannot get back time. Life is going to go right along without you and sometimes you can’t help that you’re not there. Sometimes it isn’t possible. Priorities get in the way but they are just that, priorities.

And some things need handled.

Family is absolutely the priority.

We’re on the road to nowhere…

I had seriously thought about resetting this page but your past is as important as your present and future are. So everything stays. This isn’t a new year, new me post.

God no, I hate those.

I just feel the need to actually sit down and write and share our little adventures as they happen. I need to include more of my life to this.

But I will say, focus is important this year.

Most important.

Focus and execution are key.

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Heartbroken

I want you to think back to when your firstborn child came into the world, if you’re a parent.

Think about holding that tiny baby and how you would do anything in the world for that child. You would kill or die for that kid.

Well, unless you’re the worst parent in the world, you still feel that way.

I’m writing this from the bottom. I’ve been here before. I always claw my way back up to the top, faith renewed and waiting for the next hit. I always get back up.

My daughter tore my heart out last night. She has lied, she has done things that I never thought she would be capable of. She has tested my faith in the fact that she actually cares if I’m a part of her life or if I’m alive and breathing.

I am in a word, heartbroken.

And I would still kill or die for this kid. That doesn’t change.

My wife and I have a solid marriage. I’m not saying we never fight or that everything is perfect, anyone who says that is lying. That’s part of being a couple. We work our hardest and do our best to give both of our children a great life. They want for nothing. I think we’ve given them more than they need though, and that’s going to stop.

Social media can be a great thing. You can communicate, connect, and learn new things. You can expand your mind and knowledge on a wide variety of subjects. Anything under the sun.

That’s you, most likely reading this as an adult. You have wisdom and experience to rationalize what you read and make an informed decision about most anything.

Social media can poison the mind of a child. A child’s friends will poison their mind as well. They don’t have the tools needed to handle and filter what is put before them.

So I’m trying to figure out what to do. I have taken my child’s electronics. Phone, laptop, iPad. Gone.

She doesn’t have an online presence at the moment. She may not get it back. If she’s not at school she’s with me and the wife, or my parents. There’s nowhere she isn’t watched by someone who is trusted with her safety both physically and mentally.

I just needed to write this down. I was in tears this morning on the way to work. I didn’t break down last night in front of her. I won’t. But this morning in the car all alone it hit me hard.

One day I won’t be there to guide her and that scares me.

Time to grow up. Now.

SISC